Mary Lou Hathaway (Dumond) departed this earth on the evening of June 12, 2019, surrounded by her family, after a two-year battle with cancer. She was 75. She was born in Corvallis, Oregon, to Mary and Louie Dumond. Mary was a nurse at Good Samaritan Hospital for decades, and she and Louie owned and operated the Chat ‘n’ Chew for many years.
Mary Lou grew up in Corvallis where she had many friends who still recall her antics and her exuberant and generous personality. Most people’s first impressions of her were her tiny stature, long black braids and large brown eyes. She would often tell stories of the nuns she encountered while attending Catholic church and parochial school. She recalled spending many hours on her knees for penance during that time. One of her greatest joys was her horse, Chica, given to her to burn off some of her boundless energy. Chica proceeded to cause Mary Lou countless injuries, but there were never any hard feelings. Once she and Chica swam across the Willamette River, presumably to get to the other side, but a wager may have been involved. Mary Lou graduated from Corvallis High School (‘61) and later took business classes at Linn-Benton Community College.
Mary Lou met Benjamin Hathaway while he was a student at OSU and they moved to Santa Barbara, California where they married and he worked as a pharmacist. Mary Lou worked at Blue Cross/Blue Shield as a secretary during the day and waitressed at the Miramar Hotel at night. They worked very hard to build their various businesses together over the two decades they lived in Santa Barbara. Mary Lou enjoyed Santa Barbara life and twice participated in the annual Fiesta parade on her beloved horse, a black Anglo-Arab gelding named “Shazami.” Over the years she traveled to Mexico, Belize, France, and Thailand. In 2014, she accomplished a lifelong desire to see to the Hermitage Museum in St. Petersberg, Russia. She would have liked to travel more, but it was not to be.
Mary Lou worked tirelessly as a mother, wife, friend, and business partner, but of all her roles in life, her favorite was that of a mother to Marie, Benjamin, and Nathaniel, and a grandmother to Heather, Elizabeth, Spencer, and Ashton. She appreciated simple things: walks to Kilchis Point on Tillamook Bay with her dogs, kids, and grandkids, playing cards, cooking, reading, kayaking, horseback riding, skiing, clamming, fishing, elk hunting, mushrooming, music, dancing, and especially, a margarita made just right and a hearty laugh with good friends.
Mary Lou is survived by her husband, Benjamin Hathaway Jr.; brother, Robert Dumond; daughter, Marie Hathaway Hilton; son, Benjamin Hathaway III; her four grandchildren: Heather, Elizabeth, and Spencer Hilton, and Ashton Hathaway; and her latest rescue dog: Manny. Mary Lou was preceded in death by her parents and her son, Nathaniel.
In lieu of flowers, please donate generously in her name to Tillamook Animal Shelter, Tillamook K9 Rescue, or A Cause for Paws. A private celebration of life will be held in August.
Rest well, Mom. We love you always, TM & SM.